Returning to school worries are normal

Week three will see the start of students returning to school one day a week. During this time of transition some students may experience anxiety, fear or worry.  They may be concerned about who is at school with them, which teacher they have, what they will be doing at school. For some students they may experience separation anxiety after being at home with their families. Other students may be concerned about coivid-19, social distancing and this may make the transition back to school harder for them.

Children can display these concerns in different ways. You may see disruptive sleep, defiance, arguments, acting out, some children may become withdrawn, clingy or teary. It is important that during this time we validate that our children are experiencing concerns which are causing them discomfort. The behaviour we are seeing can be their way of communicating these concerns and discomfort to us.

Take the time to listen to things that your child may talk about, remember these concerns are valid to them even if they feel trivial to us. By connecting and validating your child's feelings you are helping them to feel safe. This can be done by listening and reflecting back what your child is saying, then try help them problem solve the concern - eg: It sounds like you feel worried about who will be at school, can you name some people you could play with?  You can also help your child prepare for the return to school by letting them know it is ok to be at school. Talk to them about how school may still be a little different but it is important for them to be here so they can connect with their teacher and peers.

For many people routines have been disruptive during this time, it would be helpful for your child to re-establish normal waking and sleep routines during this week to support them in returning to school.  It is important to remember that this has been a time of change for everyone, all people experience and respond to change differently and any worries, fear and anxiety during this time is normal. By connecting, listening, validating and supporting your child during this change you can help them build resilience and emotional skills for the future.

If you feel your child is experiencing difficulties managing any of these emotions or is displaying avoidance of returning to school please don’t hesitate to reach out and seek support.

From the School Counsellor